Comments on: Calling Your Child “Naughty” Is Naughty, Will Scar For Life

By: meetsy

meetsy — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 20:10:42 +0000

Well, lets see…the kids I remember from childhood who’s parents ALWAYS called them “evil” “bad” “naughty” and “would end up in prison”…among other defining terms….all ended up IN JAIL!!! They turned from sweet kids to 7/11 store robbers, bums, drug addicts and cretins. I lost touch with them years ago. The kids who were beaten to within an inch of their lives became wife beaters and/or beaten wives (go figure?!!), totally bum boozers, and/or have since dropped out of society. The kids who’s parents alternated between beatings and talking to’s have done moderately ok. Some have had years of counseling, and a few failed marriages. Most have had major bouts of depression and flirting with drink and drugs. But, overall, they did — a cautionary — “alright”. The kids who’s parents talked to them, reasoned with them, were consistent and tried to listen to them…have all ended up doing well in life. Very well indeed.
The less “baggage” you inflict, the less kids need to overcome later in life. Recovery from childhood takes a lot of time and energy better spent on being an adult, and getting on with one’s life.
As for all the “I was spanked, beaten, yelled at…all the time..and I turned out okay” is denial. Did you REALLY do as well as you could have done if your parents opted for a different route of parenting?
It is EASY to hit kids and call them names. Parenting them takes a little more work.
I dunno…this is after 50 years of study…..I’d say

By: Frank IBC

Frank IBC — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 18:22:44 +0000

More PC idiocy in the schools:

Some School Districts Ban ‘Tag’

By: OhForTheLoveOf

OhForTheLoveOf — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 18:17:46 +0000

#31 True Story – My wife teaches children dance, and a parent withdrew her child becuase she overheard on of the teachers tell the children “Not to be naughty”. The mother stated “We don’t use that kind of language in our house…”

Comment by Chris — 10/18/2006 @ 5:45 am

Is there any chance that the language she was refering to was English? That is a delightful story and I hope “foul mouthed” didn’t get any flack over it.

By: Steve

Steve — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 18:14:26 +0000

#28 What my wife and i did was create a charactor.
Stupid Steve.
So anytime my kids were being bad or what ever i would tell them
“you and steve have a lot in common right now:”
“dont be like steve.”

HEY… SCREW YOU MAN!

By: Max

Max — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 15:06:57 +0000

Hmm – My parents never made the distinction. I’m not screwed up. Neither is my sister, or my wife, or … well, you get the picture. I also rode my bike without a helmet. My parents were horrible, weren’t they?

By: Mr. Fusion

Mr. Fusion — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 14:59:46 +0000

#31, good point.

It reminds me of a question I heard years ago. What is the difference between a juvenile delinquent and a rambunctious child? It depends upon whether you are the parent.

Every mother thinks their child is really a good kid, just misunderstood. Every neighbor can tell you with certainty that the same kid belongs in juvenile hall.

By: Mr. Fusion

Mr. Fusion — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 14:56:15 +0000

#26, Mr G.P

Thank you. I appreciate the correction. All my life my spelling was atrocious and grammar just as bad. It has only been since “spell check” that I can create a sentence without mistakes. And, even though my grammar has improved too, as you point out, it still needs improvement.

Thank you again.

By: Tom

Tom — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 14:46:13 +0000

Now that i think of it, maybe it isnt such a good word. Now that i think of the connentations.

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 13:45:21 +0000

True Story – My wife teaches children dance, and a parent withdrew her child becuase she overheard on of the teachers tell the children “Not to be naughty”. The mother stated “We don’t use that kind of language in our house…”

By: woktiny

woktiny — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 13:37:14 +0000

I wonder how many of the people who reacted to this in anger were naughty kids…

By: Tom

Tom — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 12:45:58 +0000

This is part of the reason why america has gone the tube in some respects, becuase we are to scared to discipline our children.

By: chris

chris — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 11:33:15 +0000

What my wife and i did was create a charactor.
Stupid Steve.
So anytime my kids were being bad or what ever i would tell them
“you and steve have a lot in common right now:”
“dont be like steve.”

The idea was to point out to them that they were being a idiot, but not call them that.

Maybe not the best way to do it but our kids responded to it well and my oldest (10) now jokes and says that she has had “steve moments”

By: John Urho Kemp

John Urho Kemp — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 10:02:33 +0000

0113addiv – I know you’re making up all of your posts here, but I can’t understand why. Are you trying to be humorous? If so, you’re failing badly, or else the comedy is just beyond anyone here.

Also, was your wife one of the women that you tricked into bed with the “levitation” maneuver you spouted in another post? Also, is she 12 or 13 as you said before you would like to date 12 or 13 year olds.

By: grammar police

grammar police — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 03:48:59 +0000

Mr. Fusion… Your posts are very well-thought-out, but the word you’re looking for in almost all of them is “THAN.”

By: Frank IBC

Frank IBC — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 02:35:09 +0000

tallwookie -

The word “naughty” has dropped out of common usage in the USA. But it’s still used in England, where the article was written.